Sunday, 27 August 2017

JUST PHILOSOPHING - IT IS A LOT ABOUT PERCEPTION AND EXPECTATION. THE END!




So it is, that, oftentimes, the outcome of our social intercourse is not determined by the factual issues discussed, but by the extraneous factors, influences which we draw on during the exchange. 

Whether or not we are fully aware of them and them doing so. 

This is why it can be positive and constructive for  us to take a bit of time out, when our social intercourse is becoming too tense and stressful, and cool down and do a bit of reflection, a bit of analysis.


Of course, there are times when some of us perceive this option as another source of irritation. 

Asking ourselves the question, 'what is going on here; this situation should not be happening?' 

If we are or were able to do so, there are times when we would have better outcomes. If only we were able to have better control of some of those extraneous factors. 

Probably the fact that we are being too controlled by our emotions, by our vulnerabilities, by our insecurities, by our unyielding quest to 'win', to show how tough or how good we are. 



Not by our sense of compassion, by our feeling of humility, by our commitment to having a peaceful resolution of the perceived difficult issues we are dealing with. 

An issues which, when examined logically and calmly, will often times lead to the conclusion that, 'they should not have become the major issues had become or morphed into, and causing needless and avoidable tensions and even conflict.' 

Had it not been for the fact that it has been transformed into something else, by one or more of the actors involved. 



The equivalent of  a person becoming angry and kitting or pushing over somebody and causing his/her death.

In living your life, try to avoid having and/or applying inflexible perceptions and expectations about people and situations. 

Be aware of the essence of the particular situations you are in, and endeavour to appropriately align your perceptions, expectations and conduct accordingly. 



This will require you to ask yourself this question: 'In what capacity am I involved in the event I am currently in - is it primarily about me or somebody else, and what is expected of me?

Peaceful relations between people, whether in families or between unrelated people, is something to of great value. 

We should all be endeavouring to to preserve it, where it exists, and encouraging and promoting it, where it is absent. And never carelessly or selfishly endangering it.







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