What is noticeably about our friend, as what now seems to be the early stages of dementia developing, is the marked progression of her emotional withdrawal dissonance.
How she is becoming increasingly at odds with those closest to her. Her lessening of trust, oppositional stance towards them, refusal to accept and comply with advise and suggestions which are considered to be in her best interests.
How sad and poignant it is becoming that our friend's eyes no longer seem to see as clearly and warmly as they one did.
Their sparkle has now been replaced with what seems like uncertainty, timidity, almost fear.
The laughter has now gone or is receding, as much as her spirit and the softness, the vitality which once her laughter would foretell, is now fast draining away.
Her countenance, which once foretold good cheer and joviality, is now normally one of sadness, grumpiness, and of I am not enjoying this.
Indeed, how, by not accepting certain advice, she seems to cause herself further harm and make her situation worst.
It has become very noticeable that our friend is increasingly not finding her life enjoyable.
A situation which is not helped by increasing tendency and/or inability to trust those closest to her, those who are trying to help her.
And then again, our friend has also been a person with a certain laconic personality, a strong character; someone who has not been given to making a a great show of the happiness she must have felt at times.
So, it is probably not surprising that she should be more unwilling and/or unable to do so now.
A situation which is proving a matter of much despair for those close to her, as her resentment and lack of trust gives rise to feelings of undeserved guilt and of unhappiness.
Looked at philosophically, this is a situation which is likely to be confronted many, if not most people caring, not only for loved or unrelated relatives.
Who are developing dementia, but for people who are approaching or in their advanced years.
It is one which can and does causes a lot of painful contemplation, but it is something which we should try to manage as best we can.
Probably because we are or should be better able to demonstrate the necessary mental, intellectual and personality flexibility and strength to do so.
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