Monday, 20 November 2017

IT WAS WRITTEN IN THE STARS - AN ACCOUNT OF LIVES IMPACTED 'EVERYDAY ADVERSITIES.' PART 7.





'It seems to an elevated part of the condition of humans that we are perpetually aspiring to know more, probably in the belief that, if we do, it will improve our understanding of the subject matter. 

We seem to think that, if we find out the 'why', we will also identify the 'how', or, at least, get nearer to 'it.''

Thanks to the vigilance of Kazaliwa’s mother, Nzuri, he was not to be denied the necessary ophthalmological treatment he needed to correct his vision.  


As she set about ensuring that he had the treatment he needed. Following his referral to Moorfield Eye Hospital, by Dr Lam, Kazaliwa had regular appointments lasting for many years.  

Which included him wearing alternating eye-patches – pirate style – to strengthen the vision in each eye.

Later, when the family moved to the West Midlands, Kazaliwa was transferred to Stafford General Hospital, where he received excellent care, under the auspices of Ms Walker.



To a great extent, Nzuri and Mfanyazaki, would probably contend that, they had not provided Kazaliwa with significantly different care and treatment to that which accorded to his brother, Mzaliwa. 

Beyond the fact that Mzaliwa suffers from a hereditary condition, which, during his childhood, resulted in regular and acute crises. 

Which would require his parents to attend to him, including having to take him to hospital regularly. 

As is the case with families in which a child or parent has some particular and additional need which demands additional attention from the parents and other members of the family. 


It is known that that can lead other children in the family feeling 'neglected' and even acting out or going into withdrawal mode, in their reaction to their feelings of 'being left out.'

After all, was it not the case that both of Kazaliwa's parents made a fuss of getting him to and from all of his regular eye appointments, when he would have had the added bonus of missing several hours school?

Because of this, and except for his trauma during his birth, Nzuri and Mfanyazaki found it difficult to identify any one, or a number of reasons.  

Why the young Kazaliwa began displaying on-going problematic behaviours after he started attending Infant and Junior School. 


With the aid of hindsight, Nzuri and Mfanyazaki might have considered whether the excruciating and prolonged birth trauma which Nzuri and Kazaliwa had endured during the child’s birth, was a factor?  As was most likely the case.

Or that the depression, the sense of forlorn which his mother had and felt after the birth, had impeded Nzuri's establishing and development strong and positive bond with her baby. 

Although she met all his physical and basic emotional needs in his infancy, but probably struggled to engage with him, emotionally, in his early childhood, as well as she might have, had it not been for the truama of his birth needs in his later early childhood. 

To be continued.



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