Having verbally greeted and hugged, we all sat down for what was to prove to to be an enjoyable and satisfying more than 100 minutes of continuous conversation.
Yes, as is probably the norm in these poignant situations, our host and us perused each other, looking for confirmation that each part is coping with the situation which our separate and shared fate have, are subjecting us to.
Not just coping physically, but also emotionally and psychologically.
With both parties doubtlessly being aware that, to some extent, it is also the norm for people to try to conceal any evidence of 'not coping', or having major difficulties in coping, since 'coping' is not a finite state.
Just in case such 'signs of weakness', should adversely affect the resolve of either or both parties. And possibly lead to our visit becoming a traumatic one.
During our visit, our meeting, the sense of poignancy had mostly evaporated.
And, for all intents of purpose, we, at least us who were visiting, had been able, for the duration of the visit, to transcend the initial feeling of poignancy.
That acute feeling which can sometimes act as a disincentive to make visits like this.
Visits which reminds and reinforces our sense of acute separation. Of loss, and, if we are unable to psychologically and emotionally manages and copes with our loss, turns into debilitating and destructive chronic grief.
A situation which can afflicted both or either the 'host' or the 'guests' of poignant visits such as these. Whether you are on the 'outside inside', or the 'inside outside.'
But for now, as we say 'goodbye and take care', to our 'host', and vice versa.
As we hugged again, to reinforce the bond which exists between us, by making and completing this visit, and returning to our respective and very separate worlds, in many respect.
We are reminded of how healing, how coping is our human capacity adjust to the 'abnormal.' And how we, at times, do have to do so, if we are to be able endure such conditions, when it becomes our fate to endure them.
Though the fate of some humans do appear to be worse than that of others, since we have no option but to endure our respective fate.
The challenge we all have, therefore, is to carry or endure it as 'lightly' or as resigned or acquiescently as we can.
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